As the tempature drops, I light up my fireplace to keep the house warm and cozy. It so romantic to set by the fireplace with my husband. We watch the sparks and listen to the fire pop while we cuddle and converse and sip on some ever so fine wine.
As the fire burns down, we restock. Adding more logs to the flame ultimately keeps the fire burning. If we want the fire to burn down or burn out, we stop adding logs or turn the gas key to off. We keep a stockpile of logs outback-hint...hint...
One may wonder... what does this have to do with marriage.
Well, in my line of business I meet with eager, energetic brides everyday who are full of the Soon-To-Be Syndrome. They go above and beyond to look their best on their wedding day. They join Curves or hire a personal trainer. They go extra lengths for their locks. They visit their hair stylist and disucss various styles and may even experiment with color or new hair-do's. They will scoot to spa for a nice facial or rub down. They eat extremely healthy the entire months ahead to either lose or maintain their weight. They search long and hard for the perfect lingerie to wear on their wedding night. They walks the malls to find for the perfect outfit to wear at dinner rehearsal/bridal shower. They visit the pefume counter to find that special scent to wear the day of the wedding- the one he absolutely loves.
The day before the wedding, they have a top of line pedicure and manicure. The day of the wedding their make-up is flawless and hair is impeccable. The night of the wedding their body is banging and their lingerie is sexy.
After the honeymoon phase...what happens! Suddenly, the log tossing STOPS and the flame is depleted.
The curves membership is cancelled, you return to the fast food drive-thru's, nails are chipped, hammer time is on their toes, and their hair is mangled and worst of all- the lingerie doesn't fit anymore.
I wish brides (and grooms) put as much zeal into their marriage as they do into the planning. Marriage is a convenant. So many people take it for granted. They spend thousands upon thousands for such a beautiful day and spend -0- to maintain their marriage. Realizing not every person goes into marriage for the right reason. Some rush to the alter because their "x" recently said "I Do" while others get married just for the attention. Some get married because there close friend is now Mrs.
or...some simply marry out of desperation. They were scorned by their past lover or X-wife/husband and marry their Super-Hero to find out a few years later that they really have nothing in common. Just infactutation. People are usually attracted to what they are so no wonder why two desperate people find love so quickly. They are both the super hero's and feed off of each other's desperate affection.
Marriage is like swimming. It will test every muscle in your body. Marriages require lots of work, time and effort, forgiving, understanding, flexibility, trust (and the list goes on)...
After you've said the nuptials, make sure you continue to toss logs into the fireplace to keep it burning. In everything that you done to look your best the day of the wedding, maintain those things so that you always look your best.
And every now and then... like Beyonce' said best..
Look in the back of your closet and put your freak'um dress on...
Goodnite-
